The holiday whirlwind is upon usMichelle Jeffreys
You are not alone in the whirlwind….
If you are like me, you feel overwhelmed when trying to keep your head above water and get everything done as the days keep getting shorter, but the list keeps getting longer!
The last few months have been a blessing for me with the book release and the book signings. I have been so wrapped up in the book release, traveling, and promoting the book that suddenly the Holidays hit me!
If you have found yourself in a similar situation, try to remind yourself that Holidays are about family and time spent together. They are not about how many presents you bought or made or how much money you spent. It is not about the number of cookies you baked or how decorative your house is.
The best memories of the holidays are those snuggled up on the couch, watching holiday movies, and eating snacks. So remind yourself to take a break and give yourself some grace during this time. Also, take some time to enjoy the season. I know I have had to remind myself of this a few times already 😉
“Maybe Christmas doesn’t come from a store, Maybe Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.”
For those of you new in your grief and are now entering the holiday whirlwind. I want to tell you about my first year and some things I did that year.
Zoe died in October, and we went right into the holidays without her. I remember we decided to have Thanksgiving still, but I remember how solemnly we all sat as we force-fed what we could to ourselves. My entire family sat there, mostly in silence. We were together, though, and that was important to us.
Christmas I took a trip. At that point, I needed to get away, this was an odd choice at the moment, but it was a trip that had been pre-planned before she died and looking back it helped a lot. It got me out of the house and helped put a smile on my face for a change. You need those moments while grieving to remind you-you
are human. To remind you that life will make you smile again.
My advice for the first year is to do what comes and feels natural to you. If you don’t want to celebrate the holidays, then don’t do it. If you do, then do it. Only you can decide what will feel right for yourself and your family. Don’t let others tell you what you should and should not do. Like I always say. There is no right or wrong way to grieve our losses. We do the best we can with what we know.
However, you choose to get yourself through the holiday whirlwind this year or any year to come.
I want you to know that you are not alone. You are loved. I see you. Grieving parents rely on each other to make it through these challenging times. I am sending virtual hugs to you all! May your holidays be what you make them.