Stage 5 – Acceptance

Acceptance does not mean that you are healed or that you are alright with what happened. I think it just means that you are accepting of your new situation and have come to terms with your loss. For so long it did not feel like I was living in reality, it still doesn’t, I still wonder how I got to this point.

“Finding acceptance may be just having more good days than bad ones.” “As we begin to live again and enjoy our life, we often feel that in doing so, we are betraying our loved one.” “Instead of denying our feelings, we listen to our needs; we move, we change, we grow, we evolve. We may reach out to others and become more involved. We start to live again.”

At this point, year five; I feel like I am changing, growing and evolving. How do I feel about this? It feels good to know that life is going on and that things will be alright. I believe there will be more changing, growing and evolving as time goes on and I am alright with that. Accepting what I cannot change, while making the most of what I have left in this life, honoring Zoe as I am able and not stressing over things I cannot change has become my new mantra. Zoe would want me to focus on my son, my daughter and my family. She would want us all to be happy and living life.